It's really easy to say things online, that you simply wouldn't say face to face. Some of the most popular apps with young people are designed to enable people to share information, and pictures and videos. It can be easy to say things online that we later regret.
If you think your child has overshared online, don't panic. It is rare that things get out of control, but even if they do there are ways you can respond and organisations that can help and support you.
What are the risks?
Once information is shared online, you can never be sure who has seen it, saved it or even shared it.
Personal information in the wrong hands can lead to bullying.
Knowing that others have seen embarrassing things about them can cause stress and anxiety, and affect a child's confidence and self-esteem.
Unwanted information online could affect educational and job opportunities later in life.
People with a sexual interest in children can use personal information online to work out if a child might be vulnerable or ways to attempt to groom them.
Sharing images, particularly sexualised images, can increase the likelihood of a child receiving inappropriate sexual contact from strangers online.
If you find out your child has shared too much personal information online you should first assess the risks by considering the following questions:
What did they share? Was it a photo, video or personal information? Are they embarrassed by the content? If so, why? Could the information be used to locate them?
Who did they share it with? Many apps allow you to share with an individual or a small or large group of contacts. Find out how many people might be able to see the content your child has shared.
Do they know the people they've shared it with? Have they met them face to face? If they've shared something with school friends are they worried about what they will do with the information?
Was it shared with someone they don't know? If they have never met the person face to face, find out what else your child knows about them and whether they have been in contact since. Ask if they have at any point, feel threatened in any way. Have they been aske to share inappropriate images? If so, this is a matter for the police. You can either contact your local police or report to CEOP.
If you have suspicions about someone your child has shared information with you can report to CEOP. You should report any concerns about online grooming or sexual abuse to CEOP.
How to take control.The quickest way to get content removed from the internet is for the person who posted it to take it down.
If your child posted the image using their account on a social media site, ask them to log in and delete it.
If someone else posted the image or re-posted it, ask them to delete it on any sites they've shared it on - your child's school may be able to help identify them.
If you don't know who has posted it, or they refuse to take it down, then report the image to any sites it's been posted on. All major social media sites have ways to report content. It's not guaranteed that they will take it down but if it breaks their terms and conditions or 'community guidelines' it should be removed.
Some sites don't have reporting processes. If the content is a sexual image you can report it to the Internet Watch Foundation (IWF). Sexual images of anyone under 18 are illegal and the IWF can work to get them removed from sites which don't have reporting procedures. You can report directly to the IWF and children can call ChildLine who work with the IWF.
If someone is using personal information online to bully your child, don't take matters into your own hands or retaliate, you should speak to their school urgently.
If your child feels threatened by someone who they only know online you should report to your local police. If they are acting sexually towards your child or asking them to do sexual things you should report to CEOP.
Stay calm. There are things that you can do to safeguard and gain control of the situation.
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